Stop setting goals and achieve results

Stop setting goals and achieve results

An alternative way to achieve your goals

Recently I read an article by James Clear which had a light bulb effect on me.  All my life I have focused on setting goals and have to say, have achieved the majority of them.  But what about the times when I failed to achieve results that I so desperately wanted?

By not achieving them, did this make me a failure?  Of course not, but it certainly made me feel that way.

Take the example of losing weight.  I set myself a goal to lose one stone within 2 months.  The end of the 2 months came and I weighed myself and had lost 10lbs.  I was 4lbs short of my goal and therefore deemed myself as having failed.

Now I realise how ridiculous that situation was.  I was 10lbs lighter.  That was a result!  And a successful one at that.  I had achieved something and yet felt that I had failed.

So how about not setting goals any more but set about following a system that ultimately will get you to your desired results.

James explains this so well in his article by describing the difference between goals and systems.

  • If you’re a writer, your goal is to write a book. Your system is the writing schedule that you follow each week.
  • If you’re a runner, your goal is to run a marathon. Your system is your training schedule for the month.
  • If you’re an entrepreneur, your goal is to build a million dollar business. Your system is your sales and marketing process.

Now stop and think, if you didn’t set a goal but followed a system, would you still achieve results?  The probability is that you would.

So instead of me setting a goal to lose one stone, if I set up a system to eat more healthily and exercise more each week, it is inevitable that I would lose the weight.  The bonus to this is that I would keep the weight off as the healthy eating and exercise would become a habit, or rather a lifestyle change, to be constantly continued.  This can be better than setting a goal which once achieved, the motivation to continue at what you were doing previously instantly diminishes.

The same is true of a runner training for a race.  Once the race day has come, the motivation to continue training tends to leave.  I once trained for a marathon and after completing it, lost all motivation to run again as I had nothing to aim for that was as challenging.

So start to commit to a system rather than setting yourself a goal.

If you set a goal to start a home business and earn £500 extra each month, the stress of not achieving that figure would increase your stress levels and reduce your happiness, probably to the extent that you would give up after 6 months.  If instead, you said you were going to let 3 people each day know about your new business venture, the laws of probability dictates that you would start to slowly but surely gain new customers and build an income that would last for the long term.

So if you are planning on achieving something, try changing your mindset from setting a goal to setting up some systems to take you towards your desired outcome.  You might just find it more fun and more easily achievable than you imagined.  Give this alternative way of thinking a go and achieve results that may otherwise elude you.

Move forward with life

Move forward with life

Move forward with lifeDo you want to move forward with life?

If the answer to this is yes (and please seek professional help if the answer is no), then is wallowing in the past halting your forward movement?

If you are driving your car to a destination, what is the one most important thing to do?  The obvious answer is to look forward and focus on what is in front of you and where you are going.

So why do so many of us in our lives, metaphorically, keep looking in the rear view mirror?  If we continue to do this we are only going to go off track, slow down so much that we never get anywhere at all, or worst of all, crash.

We really do need to learn that to move forward with life and achieve new goals, we need to stop focusing on the past.

Yes, the past will have taught us many valuable lessons and these we need to take forward with us, but constantly having our eye in that rear view mirror can only lead to unhappiness and failure.  By constantly looking in the rear view mirror, we may miss opportunities ahead and will most certainly miss the beauty of what is around us at the present time.

So next time you find yourself dwelling over something that has happened to you previously, try and imagine your life is a car journey.  Look forward.  Focus on the future journey and where you are going, not where you have been.

An odd glance in the rear view mirror can be useful at times to see how far we have come in our lives and to see what obstacles we have just missed or overcome, but the front view window to your future is so much more important.

I truly wish you all the best with whatever journey you are on to move forward with life.  Keep looking forward.

Much love

Angie x